Memorial Day: Greet them ever with grateful hearts

The U.S. cemetery at Henri-Chapelle in Belgium.

The U.S. cemetery at Henri-Chapelle in Belgium.

The train trip from Brussels lasted two hours, with a change at Liege. On most days, Welkenraedt was a sign post you blinked past on the way to attractions in Germany: Cologne, Monschau, the only Wal-Mart for 100 miles. On this Memorial Day, it was a place to stop.

A few dozen miles to the south lay the northernmost bulge from Hitler’s Ardennes Offensive in 1944. A couple of miles to the north, in Henri-Chapelle, lie the remains of 7,992 American soldiers who never made it out of Belgium.

A couple of miles was more than my wife and I had anticipated. A young woman sat behind the ticket window. Was there, we asked her in the mangled French of two recent arrivals, a bus to the cemetery? Perhaps a taxi?

You are Americains?

Oui, oui. (“Yes” twice, in the manner of so many who speak few foreign words with confidence.)

She turned, made a phone call, hung up, told us to wait.

Presently, a man in work clothes appeared and waved us over. (Americains are an easy mark in Welkenraedt.)

We slid onto the bench of his white pickup truck for a ride with a little conversation in French, a little bit of English and a lot of silence. We understood enough to learn that this man was a gardener at the cemetery, and that part of his job was to drive to town to pick up any American visitors.

We arrived, parked, entered the cemetery, and were immediately struck by the simple, still beauty of the grounds he kept — and by the crowd of people we were joining.

In the distance lay rolling hills criss-crossed with trees behind which men had died so that we could stand as free men and women at their graves. In the foreground milled around octogenarian Belgian men, wearing medals and garrison caps, who fought beside them and now returned each year to honor them.

There were wreaths and widows, miniature flags, ambassadors and generals. And the crosses — the rows and rows of angel-white crosses, with some stars of David mixed in — bearing names, dates, unit numbers. Or, sometimes, a line simply stating, “Here rests in honored glory a comrade in arms known but to God.”

But I remember most clearly the fathers not much older than I, walking with sons or daughters perched on their shoulders, passing down an old lesson about hell and heroism, good and evil, selflessness and senselessness. And most of all, gratitude.

We would visit a different U.S. cemetery each Memorial Day while we lived in Belgium; there are, sadly, enough of them to cover more than a few Mays. There were elements common to each of them and to many of the ceremonies that take place here: military bands and speeches and, if you’re lucky, jets streaking overhead in a missing-man formation.

Other elements were unique, like the eye-wetting sound of Flemish schoolchildren, too young to know many other English words, singing “The Star-Spangled Banner” among 368 tombs in Flanders Field.

It’s easier here to visit a Memorial Day service and, in a pinch, to ask for help finding it. There’s no reason not to take your children and grandchildren and nieces and nephews out for a couple of hours to retell those old lessons, as I’ll do with my son when he’s old enough to understand.

We’ll do as the engraving on the Flanders Field monument bids us. Wherever we meet them, we’ll “greet them ever with grateful hearts.”

(Note: This column was originally published May 28, 2010. Have a good Memorial Day, and please keep the gravity of the occasion in mind as you post your comments.)

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Lil_Barry_Bailout
Lil_Barry_Bailout

Great piece, Kyle. I imagine such a visit would inspire most anyone to think a little differently about war, sacrifice, and humanity.

Bruno2
Bruno2

Santayana: “Those who don't know history are doomed to repeat it.” 

Kurt Vonnegut Jr: "I've got news for Mr. Santayana: we're doomed to repeat the past no matter what. That's what it is to be alive.”

MaryElizabethSings
MaryElizabethSings

Let us all remember on this Memorial Day to honor the dead of all wars, who have kept "The American Experiment" alive on this planet, hopefully eternally.  And, let us pray that we, together, shall find a way to engage on Earth, with God's help, so that there will be wars no more.

Wascatlady
Wascatlady

Again, this is so beautiful, Kyle. My dad was there; captured and survived, and lived to bring me into the world.  One day I hope to go.


Thanks are inadequate to those who have kept us free.

FIGMO2
FIGMO2

Though originally published in 2010, I never tire of reading it, Kyle.

But I remember most clearly the fathers not much older than I, walking with sons or daughters perched on their shoulders, passing down an old lesson about hell and heroism, good and evil, selflessness and senselessness. And most of all, gratitude.

The paragraph that always brings a tear to my eye.